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Friday, 14 September 2012

Anxiety/depression...

Hello Beautiful readers...so todays post is more of a serious note. Anxiety and depression-a topic that many suffer from, most are silent, a topic that is seen as something in society that people "don't talk about". I have personally suffered from this and done a lot of work with people who have also suffered. In this post I want to reach out to those who do suffer, offer advice and support. I want to open peoples eyes to this subject so that they can also try and see what it is like for those who suffer or they may be able to help those who they think may be suffering. I am not a medical profession, just someone with experience.

Symptons.

Anxiety= a feeling of panic, uncontrollable fear, feeling sick, tension headache, unable to move, panic attack, palpitations, trouble breathing, loss of appetite, feeling faint, not wanting to see anyone or go anywhere. It can occur suddenly, daily or random times.

Depression.

Depression= a feeling of worthlessness, lost, unhappy most of the time, empty, unable to go out, hard to socialise, isolated, self harm, low self worth, unable to enjoy things, loss of appetite, difficulty getting out of bed in the morning, difficult to get dressed/washed. Can occur without person realising, sufferers can be unaware. Depression is long term if not treated. Is hereditary, and can reoccur again in future.

Dont feel like you are alone or that you are "strange" or "the only one" as many more are feeling the same way. Lots go through the same thing just maybe a different reason on why they feel the way they do. Its important you start to look up. It may feel like there is no way out and that you are in a black hole....but dont fear there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Recognise these symptons? If you have one or two is doesnt neccesarily mean you are a sufferer. Go to the doctor or talk to a friend if you suspect anything.

Some ways to help.

I personally am a believer that these things occur due to events happening in our lives. These events could've occured in our younger life without realising that these things can then effect us in the future. Negative voices stay with us if not recognised, if you dont face your demons or an event then you will find it hard to accept and move on. Some find a word, smell or by watching a soap with a particular storyline can trigger anxiety or the feelings within depression and not know why. Us humans sometimes go through "traumatic" events that we sometimes block from our mind. This is common and you may find that you know what causes these feelings but not the whole picture, unless you face this you may find these feelings will reoccur.

Timeline.

I have found this resource helpful for so many people. It focuses on a persons life, you look at every event that a negative or positive outcome starting from the earliest memory or event you know of, such as moving house or losing a loved one. You go through this timeline till your current status. If you look at someones timeline you can sometimes find a pattern, such as one person giving negative comments that you have remembered such as "you are so short" and "look at the state of you". Having these on a regular occurance can have a negative impact causing low self esteem. Why not give it a try and see what pattern you can see? if you cant and feel ok to then email it to me and i will have a look. I am 100% confidential so dont worry.


Letter to that person.

So following on from above, that negative person or a person who has created a negative event in your life. Write a letter to them, it can be pages long or just a word, write everything you wish you could say to them. This could be a letter of swear words, or a letter of what they did and how they made you feel. Dont send this to them, this is your private letter. When you are done read it back to yourself, then get rid of it. This could be burning it (safely!!! outside and dont be silly with this!), ripping it up and throwing it in the sea or merely a bin. However you feel is appropriate you do. This can give people a sense of closure, a sense of release.

Word drop.

Right thinking of that person or could be a place. Think of a word that you feel when you think of it. Write it on a tiny piece of paper. Screw this piece up as small as you can, and if you can see that person or place "drop" it in there house, bag or leave at a place associated with the negativity. This can also leave a sense of release. This may sound silly to some but honestly it can make you feel that little bit better, and they will never know. You will start to get some of the control they took away from you.

Positive box.

Right lets get creative!! Get a shoe box and make it a special box just for you to access. Decorate it how you would love, take your time on this as it is your special positive box. When you have done this add your favourite things, such as your favourite photo that makes you feel happy, a flower, scent, song, things that make you feel good. Then when you feel low this is the box you open and go through. As positive things happen take a picture, or write it down and put it in your box.

Letters from the important people.

Right another exciting little project. Pick one or two people that have had a positive impact on your life, that you respect and feel happy with. Ask these two people to write a positives and negatives list on you! Get them to put it in an envelope and give to you sealed. When you have them sit down with your favourite drink and open them! This is the best bit! The list will not be what you expected, the negatives are normally things such as "never does enough for her/himself". Read them and smile knowing you are beautiful and you are loved, place these in your positive box to read again and again!

Doctors.

You get some great doctors and some not so great ones, you literally need to "shop" around to find one you feel comfortable with and who you feel is listening and helping you. There are many paths to go down and its important you see your doctor and discuss how you feel. Take someone with you if it makes you feel that bit better. They may offer counselling that is very helpful, but its not for everyone and again you may need to "shop" around for one that makes you feel comfortable and helpful. The doctor will also look at medical support with medication, again this is something to consider. They will start you on a low dose with a particular brand, some solely help with anxiety and some for both anxiety and depression. Give it a go if you feel its right, but keep in mind that they dont help alone, well I personally dont think they do, have counselling alongside or support from friends/family. When you start you may feel like it wont help and thats because it takes 3-4 weeks for it to get into system and you may get side effects within this time which can fade. If you still dont feel right go back and they may either up the dose or change the type you are on. Be patient as this can take some time and when they get it right you will feel so much better.

Friends/family.

Some people will not guess what is wrong and some will not know what to do. But its important you talk to people about how you feel, what you are going through as if you suffer alone you may not get better, share a problem can halve it :). So take the plunge and talk to someone you trust.

Also, eat plenty of fruit and veg,with water and with alcohol try to moderat the amount you drink as this can sometimes heighten the low feelings.

Remember you are beautiful no matter what people say, you are a light that shines. Look deep within yourself and realise that you are stunning just the way you are.


Hope you have found this post helpful in some way, its just a little bit of advice that can help, or it may not. I hope I can help in some way. If you need any more advice or want to just talk then email me on alessiapace@hotmail.co.uk. I am happy to help you, you are not alone.

A xx



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  1. Oh, wow. I really enjoyed reading this post! I cannot say I was depressed in the past, but I was so much more negative thinker and I was so sick and tired about everything. Probably even had some suicidal thought going through my mind. But then it changed, when I started losing weight and I started to feel pretty on the inside also.
    Now I'm just so grateful and happy all the time. Life is a blessing, don't waste it being sad.
    Have a lovely day!

    xo Deja
    Deja Zu

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    1. Ah i am so pleased that you feel better and are seeing life in a more positive way. Glad you feel beautiful :) xxxx

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  2. I suffer really badly from anxiety -- to the extent that it stops me from going out to events/seeing friends/reaching out for job opportunities/going anywhere on my own... I find it really comforting that there are bloggers in the same/similar situations who we can talk and listen to. Thank you for this post :) xxx

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    1. Do you know when it started and/or what triggers it? Here if you want to talk xxxxx

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    2. I think I first started suffering from it back when I was doing my A levels and I had a lot of problems with a past relationship then too...
      I've suffered from panic attacks that have left my entire body numb and I've been unable to physically talk. It's mostly times of stress, even the slightest things will stress me out - like if an interview/event is in an area that I'm not familiar with, or I can't picture what it looks like. xxx

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    3. Would you say the person in the r.ship put you down a lot? Do the letter to that person....was it the same time as your A levels? Xxx

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  3. So glad you have done this! & thank you so much for being there to help me with my anxiety!

    You are a true star!! Such a wonderful person :) x

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    1. No problem hun :) you are the true star xxxxxxxxxxx

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  4. Incredible post, Alessa! Really glad you brought this up. You have no idea how many people suffer from anxiety and/or depression.
    I think your tips can seriously help someone who reads this and that is truly inspiring. You are inspiring.

    X

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    1. Thanku hun, that comment is so lovely! Am grateful i have met you!! Well in the cyber blogger world! Thanku for always being amazing xxx

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    2. I'm grateful I met you, too! You're an amazing and beautiful person, from the outside and inside!!
      Xxxxx

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    3. Literally love the people I have met! Just hope we can meet up sometime! Xxxxx

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  5. I can relate to this post so much. You have a wonderful way of writing about it etc. Following your blog now, if you could check out my lifestyle blog that would be great :) Found your tips very helpfull as well as refreshing from what is said most of the time. http://princessnight1991.blogspot.co.uk/

    x

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    1. Ah glad it was useful for you. Thankyou so much hun :) will check yours out xxx

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  6. Great post and useful tips, I suffer from anxiety and I have good days and bad days. There are times when someone can say to me "lets go out now" and I would panic as the outing hasn't been planned and I need to make myself look perfect in my eyes before I can go out and to mentally prepare myself to be around crowded places, thanks for the post xoxo.

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    1. Think about when this started, the timeline may help xxxxxx

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  7. Great blog!
    Would you like follow each other?
    Let me soon on my blog!
    Anthea
    www.antheafashion.com

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  8. Such a great post, I really enjoyed reading! As I'm suffering from depression I already took some of these steps during the last years but there is some more advice I haven't tried and am gonna take from you in the future. Thanks a lot for sharing this! xxx

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    1. Im so pleased that it has given you some tips for the future, that was my aim to help :). It can be a lonely time, am here if you want to talk. Take hun and know you are strong and will feel better :) xxxxxxx

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    2. thanks a lot I really appreciate it :) take care xx

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    3. No worries :) always here if you want to talk xxxx

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  9. Thanks for letting me know about this post babes. I get really bad anxiety and have no idea what even causes it. I don't think mines related to any type of depression as I am always happy but I get very stressed so maybe thats it. Would love to get to the bottom of it xx

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    1. Anxiety and depression arent always linked. Do the timeline hun and email me if you want, it may be a way to help see a pattern and then possibly the trigger xxxx

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  10. Great post! I have suffered almost the above and still do to some extent I think the main rule is finding ur own unique way of dealing with the issues xxx

    aqeelakeela.blogspot.co.uk

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  11. I'm so glad that you just sent me your blog, I personally suffer with anxiety quite severely and i'm overcoming depression now finally. Some of these tips are really useful, I haven't even tried any of them yet and I feel a bit better that I've found somewhere that can give me tips. Anxiety/depression are both horrible but its also a comfort knowing people understand and also seeing so many people who feel the same as you - it makes you feel 'normal' again! Thanks for a great blog post :)
    Nicolle x

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  12. Amazing post! I can relate it a lot! :)
    Mental illness sucks big time! :(

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