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Sunday, 19 November 2017

Never feeling good enough 

Never feeling good enough is something I always struggle with, always doubting myself and feeling like I can't achieve anything...does that ring a bell to you? I swear this has got worse as I get older, I know why it started and I need to learn to accept I am good enough. 

So below are images that have been taken of me, and I instantly criticise myself from my hair to my figure to my teeth to my skin, I want to train my brain away from that.

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Society has built this image of "perfection" and the pressure to be "perfect" has never been so difficult, with Instagram showing the pretty pictures, the pretty faces and must have items that we all wish we had. When I was younger all that people started to use was acrylic nails, though not many had them, not much makeup and that was it! No fake tan, fake lashes, hair extensions, the desire to have straight white teeth, or a specific way to apply makeup we just did not have that kind of pressure. 

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I wonder what started this? I wonder how we got to this point? Its got to a point where such young girls are already wearing acrylic nails, hair extensions and on an extreme diet to be a certain size, if that is what they want to do then I have no right to say its wrong, I just want children to be children and for people to feel comfortable with who they are and with how pretty they naturally are without thinking they need to do all these things to be what they feel would be good enough.

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Even at my age the pressures to look young is unreal, its so hard to feel that you look okay for your age and the pressure to be "youthful" and to be wrinkle free, cellulite free is getting to a point where its making people feel they aren't "good enough". I want my children to grow up where "perfection" is whatever you feel happy with, to feel that you are good enough, you are beautiful, this will be hard with the pressure from peers and society but somehow I want to make sure I teach them this. 

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How do you cope with the pressure of not being good enough? What do you do to make yourselves feel worthy? 

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A x
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Saturday, 11 November 2017

5 tips for a Happy Soul

I am my own worst enemy when it comes to feeding my soul, being happier and generally looking after my mental health, so I thought I would write a list of things that always spark some light and can then motivate me to ensure I make it a habit! 

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One of the most important parts of my day, pre children, used to be my time to read! I would either buy or head to the library to gather up some books to get my mind wandering into pages of great literature, I found I would switch off from reality and my anxiety would reduce. Reading can relax the mind where it gets lost inside the words of a book rather then getting lost in worry and anxiety. 

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Accept compliments, this is something I have struggled with over the years where I haven't got the greatest self esteem I find it hard to accept compliments but I started to consciously change this, instead of saying oh gosh no when someone would say something nice I now pause and thank them reiterating what they said in my head. This helps to accept what they have said and to store it away in a little lovely box inside our mind. We need to give ourselves more credit for being awesome.

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Have a moment away from the fast pace lives we live. When I was little me and my family would go for walks every Sunday in beautiful places to feel free and have fun, these are some of my happiest moments. We recently moved home where our garden backs onto fields, I am so lucky and love the views! I try to make sure I take the children across the fields for a "bear hunt" like the ever so famous We're going on a bear hunt book, I want them to feel that sense of freedom, peace and fun exploring like I did as a child. Going on walks is a time I find myself feeling relief, where I can take a deep breath and walk off my worries. My favourite places are forests and beaches, they are the places I feel most at peace with myself, so when you feel like you can't escape your mind go for a long walk.

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This is something I have always given to people I work with to help them recognise how they are good people, to recognise what makes them as awesome as they are. We aren't great at looking at us in a positive light, where we can stand in front of a mirror and with great confidence say why we are a great wife or a good friend.....so now let's do this! On a various pieces of paper draw a cloud in the centre of the paper with a heading on each piece of paper, one could be daughter, one could be friend, partner, colleague etc. Draw five lines out of each cloud and then write down a reason you are a good friend on each line....so a good listener? Loyal? And answer 5 positive reasons on each cloud. 

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Laugh. Laughing is good for the soul, surround yourself with fun loving people who guarantee to make you laugh, or pop on that funny film. The film that guarantees to make me laugh is Stepbrothers, basically anything with Will Ferrell! Even when I am at my lowest and feel so deep in sadness I am guaranteed to at least crack a smile when fun lovely people or a funny film come on the screen. Laughing is also infectious! Spread the laughter and the fun.

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Hope these were helpful, I'm now off to read my book!

What tips do you use? 



A xx
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Sunday, 5 November 2017

Morphe 35f 

When you find an eyeshadow palette with pretty colours and a reasonable price tag you can presume it may not be great quality....
Morphe 35F is a palette which seems to be pretty popular amongst many bloggers so thought I would investigate this little gem. Morphe is a brand I would hear a lot from many well known Youtubers forever featuring in a favourites video, but like many great brands these were not available in the UK, until now. Morphe is available from www.cultbeauty.co.uk and www.beautybay.com.
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Morphe 35f is very much what I would say an autumnal palette with red and brown shades, you can create so many stunning looks with all of these colours. This palette is so pretty, when it came I could not believe how stunning the shades were, you get 35 shades with a mixture of matte and metallic shades that feel like a pressed pigment. For £23.00 the quality is on par as MAC Cosmetics, the eyeshadows are creamy, easy to blend with no fall out. I have such a big wish list with this brand now.  
Have you ever tried Morphe?
A xx


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Saturday, 28 October 2017

Pumpkin picking....

Pumpkins always excite me, telling me Autumn is certainly here, with the darker evenings, sunset leaves and bubbling stews
Pumpkin picking is soon becoming our little family tradition, we go to the Farrington Farm Pumpkin Festival which seems to be more popular each year. This year we struggled to park and it was too busy to decorate the pumpkins but we managed to look at the animals and walk to the pumpkin patch which was packed full of pumpkins, tiny ones, big ones and misshaped ones. 
 
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My eldest, Rafi, loves this tradition and it was lovely to see Fifi understand a bit more this year. You head to the pumpkin patch to pick your pumpkins and stack them high in your wheelbarrow which excites the children so much, next you head off to wash them and then finally you head to the barn where you buy your pumpkins and have the chance to decorate them as you wish with some food, face painting and games to entertain. Unfortunately the barn was far too busy to do this so we purchased our pumpkins and headed home to decorate them ourselves. 
 
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That evening I made some scary pumpkin quesadillas which the children loved, they chose the filling and we cut out the shapes to make the pumpkin face. 
 
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Ingredients 
Tortilla wraps
Cheese
Tomato sauce
Veg of your choice 
Meat of your choice 
 
Method
Pop some olive oil in a pan and add a tortilla wrap into the pan, fry this for a couple of minutes and add your toppings, my boy chose tomato sauce, sliced ham, sweetcorn and cheddar cheese. 
Pop another tortilla wrap on top and press down with a flat utensil, flip it over and press down again for a minute.
 Pop the quesadilla onto a plate and taking a sharp knife cut out a pumpkin Halloween face and there we go! 
 
Do you do have a Halloween tradition or recipe to share? 
A xx
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Saturday, 21 October 2017

5 Halloween Outfit ideas! 

Halloween, a time to dress up and have fun! I never used to "celebrate" Halloween but since having children I do and now love it!! The best part of it has to be the makeup for me, it's such a good opportunity to be creative, so here are my top 5 Halloween outfit and makeup ideas. 

1. Mermaid 

The great thing about being a mermaid is it is so cheap and easy to create, don't worry about buying a whole outfit, focus on the makeup and add colour to your hair. My top tips are to buy super cheap fishnet tights pop it on your face and add shades of blue, purple and pink eyeshadow to the area where you have the fishnet on, add glitter which you can buy cheaply on eBay and finally spray your hair with a can of pink or blue spray. 

Here are some cheap mermaid inspired must haves I found 


                      Mermaid Glitter


                         Mermaid Bralet

Here's a fab tutorial on YouTube from Rhiannon Claire, click on the link below. 


                       Mermaid Tutorial

2. Halloween Deer 

This is such a great look for Halloween and really easy to create! Get a good base on the face and add liner to shape the eyes and nose. Create loose curls, pop on a crown of flowers and add leaves into the hair....boom! 

Here are a couple of crowns I found


                           Deer Headband


                        Deer Headband

Here is a great tutorial on YouTube from this fab Claudia Sulewski 

 

                          Deer Tutorial

3. Disney Princess

Think of any Disney Princess you love, so the makeup you do as your everyday makeup then to give it the Halloween twist add some fake blood under the eyes and there we go a quick and easy look. Pop on a wig and always make sure you check out eBay or Amazon for the princess outfits they have a great selection.

Here are some princess must have items i found. 


                 Snow White fright outfit


                      Evil Queen Outfit

Here's a simple tutorial from Nikki Tutorials


            Disney Princess Makeup Idea

4. Halloween Starlet 

Have a dress or outfit you love? Well pop that on and do this super easy zombie makeup for a quick Halloween look! What I love about this look is that you only use eyeshadows no need to worry about funky SFX techniques! 

Here are a couple of gorgeous dresses


                     Missguided Dress


                             ASOS Dress

Here's a tutorial from Frankie Dare


                   Easy Zombie Makeup

5. Vampire

I know what an obvious choice but what an easy choice too! You can create the makeup so easily and for the outfit all you need is black, so this can be a black dress, or jeans and a black top! Considering black lace is everywhere on the high street you could grab a really gorgeous outfit for this look. 

Here are some outfits I found online! 


                Pretty Little Thing Dress


                      Boohoo Jumpsuit

Here is a tutorial from Leyla Rose 


                    Halloween Vampire


              Which one is your favourite? 

                               A xx

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Saturday, 14 October 2017

10 things you didn't know about me....

I often wonder who's the person behind a blog or I wonder who the person is who's showing me the latest must have eyeshadow palette on YouTube, so here's 10 facts for you beautiful people all about little old me. 
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1. I was born in Italy, and came to England when I was 4. I feel that Italy is my home and love getting off that plane and breathing in the homeland, the food, the mother tongue, the atmosphere and the sun! 
2. I have three beautiful children. I have a 5 year old boy, a 2 year old girl and a 7 month old baby boy. My little children make my world go round, they allow me to see things in a beautiful way, to smile and feel love like no other. 
3. I have three jobs....yes three jobs!! My main job is working with vulnerable families as an outreach worker, my second is being a makeup artist and my third is being a PA for my brother in law. Something will have to give eventually as I think I will go nuts! 
4. I have a dream to travel Asia and South America, particularly Thailand. This obsession started when my friend travelled and the stories she told were incredible, the eruption of happiness that spread across her face made me feel an urge to visit these amazing places. 
5. I am scared of dogs! I know every mans best friend is certainly not mine all because I once got chased by a wild Rottweiler in France whilst screaming help in every language I knew! It terrified me and since then I can't be near a dog without feeling on edge, I am definitely a cat lady. 
6. I once swam with dolphins, my favourite animal on the planet! I had it as an amazing gift from my beautiful parents for my 21st, the luckiest girl in the world. If you guys want to do one thing on a bucket list you have to swim with dolphins, the feeling of calm and tranquility I felt was like no other.
7. I have lived with and fight mental health issues ever since I was 17. It's been a rollercoaster and certain traumas have triggered these but everyday I try my best to keep fighting it, I have a supportive network that I need to use as I am rubbish at talking about my feelings I tend to sweep it under the carpet. If you feel alone, or you feel you can't talk to anyone please do not hesitate to talk to me. You can do this!!! 
8. I sometimes visualise I am in a music video whilst driving, with my sunglasses on and some bad ass music....Beyoncé to be precise, come on we all do it! 
9. I could eat sushi everyday! If I see a sushi restaurant I almost feel like it's a pregnancy craving and I need to go in, yet the sad thing is I haven't been to a sushi restaurant in years! Someone take me!! 
10. I am 5"1, yes the same height as Kylie Minogue and yes it means I am a short arse! A little borrower who could live in a matchstick box. I struggle to reach the top shelf in the supermarket and need my car seat to be right up to the steering wheel, insert the monkey emoji here! 

Tell me a fact about you in the comments below 
A xx
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Sunday, 8 October 2017

MAC Dare You Lipstick Review

I am pretty excited for the month of October, candles, pretty autumnal leaves, hot chocolate and the start of the exciting celebrations that Autumn and Winter bring so I couldn't resist adding these beautiful Halloween pumpkin lights from TKMaxx to my photos to showcase my new MAC lipstick.

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I am someone who has to have a dark lip over the autumn winter months otherwise I feel a bit naked! I had my 6 empty products to do Back to MAC and pick my 5th millionth lipstick. I decided I wanted a new deep red and was drawn to a few but in the end I picked Dare You, a Cremesheen finish. The lipstick has blue undertones which suit me the best, the consistency is creamy and my lips feel super soft whilst wearing this lipstick. The lipstick isn't as long wearing as the MAC Matte finishes but the pigmentation is good and the colour is divine, it has an almost shiny sparkly look to it, it has what appears to be tiny little bits of sparkle in it but is not obvious or chunky so that's a bonus. So if you are after a new red lipstick then look no further then MAC Dare You.
Have you tried this or have a favourite red lip?
A x
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