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Saturday, 19 January 2013

Topic For Discussion- Compliments!



Hello Lovelies!

Todays post is a Topic For Discussion, where I choose a topic, write about it and love to then discuss this with you readers! Todays topic is "Compliments".

Whats is a compliment?

A compliment is according to Google "a polite expression praise or encouragment". I like this definition, a compliment is something we all need and crave for without even realising it, it motivates us at work and supports us with everyday tasks. Compliments suppport self esteem and raise our confidence, enabling us to feel better about ourselves. Compliments help us feel happy, confident and and motivated. I love it when I am complimented, and as a woman I need to hear that I look good when I least expect or when I have made an effort! Dont we ladies? Also, at work it makes me feel like I am doing a "good" job, and motivates me to go to work!

One problem.........WE DONT TAKE THEM ON BOARD!!!!! I dont know about you, but when someone compliments me I feel awkward, on edge and dont know what to say or do!! When someone says "Ah you look lovely today" I tend to respond with "Ah dont be silly! I dont, you look gorgeous!" WHY do we or shall I say I do that!? Compliments make me feel so much better about myself, yet my reaction says different!

So instead of shying away we need to learn to take them in, and smile say thanks and acknowledge the compliment, so for example when someone says to me "You look so pretty today" my reply will now be "Thank you so much" smile and take the compliment on board. This will make me feel even better, and will help me grow in confidence even more! Also,when someone praises me and I react all awkward I doubt they would want to compliment me again! So hopefully they will not feel awkward either!

My mission- to say thankyou and smile to compliments....also fill out the below chart! Will you join me in this mission? Fill in "I am....." with a compliment to yourself in a comment and spread the love!!! First 5 are about your personality, second 5 are your looks....its hard but do it and smile!

Compliment Me!!

1. I am.....a good listener
2. I am.....compassionate
3. I am.....a loving mummy
4. I am.....always there for my friends and family
5. I am.....passionate about helping others, passionate at work
6. I have...lovely eyes
7. I have...bright lovely white teeth
8. I have...a nice smile
9. I have...good strong nails
10. I have...super long lashes!

Woah!! that was so hard!!! But I did it!! Now you all have a go!!! Lets compliment ourselves, its not vain and certainly not an awful thing to do, its an acknowledgment of appreciating who we are, we need to do it more often.

A xx
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18 comments

  1. Such a good post lovely, you sound exactly like me, my reaction is always 'aww no you look better!' when someone says I look nice! Or I blush.

    I'd love to see some more of these topic for discussion posts! Love them! Just about to add your blog button to my blog sidebar as well :D xx

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    1. Ah thank you lovely lady!! My compliment to you is....

      YOU ARE A STRONG INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN!

      Smile and agree ;)

      xx

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  2. I have this reaction! - I always so nooo you look better or I wish I was as nice as you etc! - I don't know why its so hard to take them, but i prefer giving them haha!

    love this post xxx

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    1. Ah it is hard to accept them, but we can learn to change that and embrace ourselves :) My compliment to you...

      YOU HAVE A HEART OF GOLD!!

      xx

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  3. This was just a lovely post! We all need to learn to accept compliments better xo

    chloesway.com

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    1. We sooo do!!! My compliment to you...you have an amazing figure!!!

      A xx

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  4. This is so nice to read :) :) Just followed your blog :)
    - HannahMarieBeauty.blogspot.co.uk
    xx

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    1. Thanks hannah! My compliment to you...your skin is flawless! Xxx

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  5. So true! I really can't take compliments and always find it awkward but I don't know why. Lovely post xx

    http://whatisinherwardrobe.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Ah smile and say thank you each time because the more you do that the better you will feel.

      My compliment to you.....you have fantastic style!!

      A xx

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  6. You're so right!! I always kick myself for not just accepting compliments, it does make you feel worse when you say things like ''ah I'm not'
    Ok so.........I am compassionate :)
    And you Alessia, have a gorgeous smile!! :D xx

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    1. Ah yay!!! You are compassionate!! Thanks hun! My compliment to you...you have pretty eyes :) xxx

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  7. I'm the same, very embarrassed by compliments but over the past few years I've taught myself to smile and say thank you rather than awkwardly looking at the floor and making the other person awkward too lol. Great post :) xx

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    1. Thank you hun! My compliment to you...you have bright flawless skin! Xx

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  8. Just found your lovely blog - newest follower :)

    www.the-fashion-underdog.blogspot.co.uk

    Emma, Bristol
    x

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    1. Thanks so much hun! You are bristol!? I am doing a blogger meetup if you are interested? Xx

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  9. Its just so hard accepting a compliment but learning to do so is an art forgoten. Its a shame because compliments should be such a natural way to support others (in my opinion anyway). Look forward to the other posts in the series

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    1. My compliment to you...your comment was perfectly written! What a great response from you, it should be natural xx

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